Thursday, November 4, 2010
My heart hurts for a dear friend whose husband left her a few weeks ago for another woman. Up and left, totally unexpected to her. When I told Daniel (little Chris's dad) about it, he said, "Ahhhhhhh, no no." He asked, "Can a man just do that like that?" Yes. I know because I experienced something similar about 25 years ago.
In Nigeria, divorce isn't common and it's definitely not an easy process. It's a far cry from Colorado's "no fault divorce." What a misnomer.
Like people around the globe, Nigerians also experience infidelity (and polygamy in some areas). But they frown on divorce. To paraphrase Daniel, a husband and wife are more than just man and woman, but companions who are there for each other, to support each other when other circumstances are hard. He's not so sure that Africans need to emulate everything about America.
"Please, tell her that we are praying for her and that we love her," Daniel said. Amen.