Thursday, November 4, 2010


My heart hurts for a dear friend whose husband left her a few weeks ago for another woman. Up and left, totally unexpected to her. When I told Daniel (little Chris's dad) about it, he said, "Ahhhhhhh, no no." He asked, "Can a man just do that like that?" Yes. I know because I experienced something similar about 25 years ago.

In Nigeria, divorce isn't common and it's definitely not an easy process. It's a far cry from Colorado's "no fault divorce." What a misnomer.

Like people around the globe, Nigerians also experience infidelity (and polygamy in some areas). But they frown on divorce. To paraphrase Daniel, a husband and wife are more than just man and woman, but companions who are there for each other, to support each other when other circumstances are hard. He's not so sure that Africans need to emulate everything about America.

"Please, tell her that we are praying for her and that we love her," Daniel said. Amen.


  1. Tell her is there anything that can separate us from the love of Jesus Christ? Not even divorce. What I can say is hold on, the on-slot on marriages from the kingdom of darkness is very serious, we most be sensitive and prayerful that God will help us stand and take refuge in Him. Divorce in Nigeria though frowned at has become more frequent especially among people who say they are children of God. Unfortunately they us men of God as there standard instead of God's word which can never change.

  2. Thanks for commenting, dear Mercy. Let's pray for strong marriages with Christ at the center. I'll pass along this message to my friend.